What do your actions say?
How do we get to true love when we have been born and raised in a self-centered and self-loving world? How can we discern the difference and where do we even begin? We must look to who God is for God is love. He is the source, and what He does and who He is gives us proper a understanding and definition of love.
Thankfully God's love is not granted to us based upon merit. Praise God for His mercy because none of us deserve His love. But we have been graciously given His love in Christ. If so, we know the source of true love. In salvation we received His love, and we were given His love by grace--by His Holy Spirit. So we can:
love God and
love others.
This means that love is the spring of all our actions.